I know this will rub some people the wrong way, but I genuinely can't stand how over produced and aligned to the grid most music is now, I used to be into metal as a kid and now I can't stand any modern recording, it's all very digital and synthetic it just sucks the fun out of it, I've seen some bands back in the days that sucked live, while on recording it sounded perfect, it's very disappointing and you feel somewhat scammed, anyone else feel this way too?
How do you feel about all the metal drummers posting "play through" videos? they are so perfect is hard for me to believe they can actually pull this off live, but then again, when I used to play original music (that I wrote) I was always playing the exact same notes.
We even found that out when we were doing a recording session and the guitar player kept saying that something I was doing was throwing him off, we recorded me twice and both times I did the exact same thing in the exact same spot
(I was playing in autopilot because I didn't make that one note change on purpose but it happened both times at the exact same place), then when I explained to the guitar player my thought process, he understood and stopped getting lost. It was a dance type beat
very simple and mind numbing so at that particular spot I would make a one note change and go back to the pattern, a "you blink and you miss it" kind of change.
I notice the same with another band I was in, I would play the exact same notes automatically every time, UNLESS I was still writing the part in which case I would change some things here and there and then leave it alone once I was ok with how it flowed.
Back to the OPs comment, I never wanted my playing to be put to a grid, because I have a very good sense of timing and when playing with a click, you can't deviate that much, but I can hear the difference between my original recording and that same recording aligned to the grid, it loses some life. Now about over producing, yes, some producers kill a lot of dynamics by forcing the volume to remain constant and removing anything that goes out of the set threshold. That leads to uninspiring recordings that start to sound very robotic. (No human can play at the same exact level for an entire song). The other thing is overdubs or things like.... a singer singing a line and starting the next line while the last line is still being heard. (something you can only do in a recording) of course that can't be replicated live so it will sound off to people who are used to the way it sounds recorded. That was one of my requirements when recording with any band I was part of. If we couldn't replicate it live, we were not going to fake it in a recording. (That of course doesn't apply to backing tracks), but of course the key word is BACKING, not main tracks, the tracks should be used to fill the space when... for example having an entire orchestra would be impractical or impossible. So yes if you can't replicate it live don't record it.